The New Cocaine

pornn03Dear Friends for Life,   Pornography is seriously penetrating our christian communities. A recent study shows that 54% of Christian men and 15% of Christian women admit to viewing pornography regularly at least once a month. Such a high percentage is surprising. Christians are people who respect God’s creation, respect the dignity of women and are a sign of contradiction in society which rejects such sickly behaviour.

pornn02Why is this important? The main reason is that pornography is an addiction to psychological dependency and weakens the family structure. It’s a primary source of divorce. It portrays a world of fantasy, not reality. It’s a game of make-believe which goes contrary to human nature.

An interesting article was written by Kevin B. Skinner, Ph.D. entitled “Is Porn Really Destroying 500,000 Marriages Annually?” He states that Dr. Jill Manning, a researcher, found in her study that 56 percent of divorce cases involved one party having an obsessive interest in pornographic websites.

pornno1Another source, the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, polled 350 divorce attorneys in 2003 where two thirds of them reported that the Internet played a significant role in the divorces, with excessive interest in online porn contributing to more than half such cases.

Like drugs, we know that pornography is addicting. Skinner states that if these numbers are accurate, something must be done. Every year for the past decade there have been roughly 1 million divorces just in the United States. If half of the people divorcing claim pornography as the culprit, that means there are 500,000 marriages annually that are failing due to pornographya sobering statistic.

pornn06Who is affected? The husband, the wife, the children, in short the entire family. The lead author of another study done in Germany says that porn is “the new cocaine” — and women are just as likely as men to get hooked.

The bottom-line is that pornography affects both the husband and wife. It warps their relationship by creating fantasies and using each other for their own gratification.

What is the role of the Christian? A Christian is a person who transcends the world of pornography with the immeasurable power of God’s love and becomes a supernatural person. He is a living symbol of the Cross. Like Christ, his voice can be heard loud and clear. Pornography is evil. Pornography has no place in our society. Pornography destroys our greatest joy – the family.

God Bless

Jerry Novotny, OMI



pornn05b(The Difference is LIFE)   “Some of us never grow-up. The body ages, but the soul remains immature, clinging to adolescence, fearful of responsibility, fearful of commitment, fearful of opportunity slipping away, fearful of aging, fearful of own maturity, and, not least, fearful of death. This is not a formula for happiness, but one for an ever-increasing fear, disappointment, and bitterness in life. Not growing-up eventually catches up with everyone, and what judged as cute at twenty, colorful at 30, and eccentric at 40, becomes intolerable at 50. At a certain age, even poetry and verve don’t compensate for immaturity. The soul too must grow-up”. – Fr. Ronald Rolheiser OMI


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